When a “Game” Isn’t Funny at All — 12 Breaking the Silence
What happens when pregnancy becomes a game—and the person pulling the positive test has spent four years praying for one?
In a recent episode of The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, a group of influencers on a girls’ trip decide to play what one of them called “pregnancy roulette.” The idea? Each woman pees on a pregnancy test, covers the result, and then blindly draws a test from a bowl to reveal.
Someone thought this was a game.
Layla, the woman who initiated it, was “a week late” and thought it would be a silly bonding moment. But for Demi—who had just vulnerably shared her four-year fertility struggle, her heartbreaking battle with endometriosis, and her partner’s sperm-related diagnosis—it was a slap in the face.
She ended up pulling a positive test. Her reaction was immediate and gut-wrenching.
“This isn’t traumatic at all,” she said sarcastically. “I don’t cry every time I take a test and get a negative.”
She wept.
And her friends just… stood there.
If you’ve been through miscarriage, infertility, or even just the uncertainty of trying—you already know: this wasn’t just tone-deaf. It was triggering, humiliating, and cruel.
But what struck us most wasn’t just the idea of the game. It was how normal this kind of insensitivity is. How easily people forget that pregnancy is not a party trick. That a test is not a joke. That seeing two lines can be the most complicated moment of your life.
At Miscarriage Movement, we hear from people every day who’ve had to sit through baby showers, field casual “When are you having kids?” questions, or smile through someone else’s announcement while breaking inside.
And what this scene captured—accidentally—was the very heart of what we fight for:
➡️ The right to feel something when fertility doesn’t come easy.
➡️ The right to opt out of a moment that hurts.
➡️ The right to be seen, not silenced.
This isn’t about canceling Layla or calling out MomTok.
It’s about what happens when we pretend pregnancy is light and easy for everyone—when we act like the road to motherhood is just a matter of good vibes and group games.
Because for many of us, it’s not.
And it never was.
This Week’s Top News Stories:
Fertility Clinic Bombing Nearly Destroys Embryos—Firefighter Saves the Day
A bombing at a Palm Springs fertility clinic this week caused a power outage that nearly destroyed dozens of embryos mid-incubation. As backup systems failed, firefighter Peter Bond took a high-risk step—manually powering the equipment to keep the embryos alive long enough for safe relocation. For many families, it was the difference between hope and irreversible loss. It’s a reminder that pregnancy loss doesn’t always look like miscarriage. Sometimes it’s a tank failure. A system crash. An explosion. And yet stories like this rarely make headlines. At Miscarriage Movement, we believe all forms of reproductive loss deserve recognition and protection. (Read more)
Viral Post: Man Leaves Wife Mid-Miscarriage to Support His Mom
A since-deleted Reddit post is making headlines after a man admitted to leaving his wife mid-miscarriage to comfort his pregnant mother. While his wife grieved in the hospital, he chose to be at his parents’ house instead. The backlash was swift. Experts say this goes beyond poor judgment—it’s an example of parental enmeshment, where a child becomes emotionally entangled with a parent at the cost of their own relationships. Miscarriage is already isolating. Being left alone in that moment doesn’t just hurt—it deepens the trauma. Grief may be complicated, but walking away isn’t support. It’s neglect. (Read more)
New Study Links Inflammation to Early Pregnancy Loss—Progesterone May Help
A new study in Science Advances suggests that inflammation in the female reproductive tract may interfere with early embryo development—but progesterone could help. Researchers at the University of Missouri found that low levels of proteins needed to respond to progesterone may increase inflammation and impair implantation. With over 60% of pregnancy losses occurring in the first 4–6 weeks, these findings offer hope—especially for those with conditions like pelvic inflammatory disease or low progesterone. While more research is needed, scientists are exploring noninvasive anti-inflammatory treatments to support early pregnancy and reduce miscarriage risk. (Read more)
“Congratulations. When Are You Due?”—The Casual Comment That Reopened a Hidden Grief
In a powerful personal essay, a woman shared how being mistaken for pregnant—after losing twins to miscarriage and undergoing a double mastectomy—reignited years of grief and isolation. Though strangers may mean well, their assumptions about her body and motherhood have felt invasive and cruel. Her story is a reminder that pregnancy loss doesn’t end with the miscarriage. It lingers in the unexpected moments—at the gas pump, in a classroom, at the grocery store—where a simple comment can reopen a wound. At Miscarriage Movement, we believe in honoring invisible grief and creating a culture that meets every body with compassion. (Read more)
Man “Jokes” About Wife Being Pregnant—Knowing She Miscarried Weeks Earlier
A Reddit post that quickly went viral tells the story of a woman who walked out of her husband’s birthday dinner after he made a fake pregnancy announcement on her behalf—knowing she’d recently had a miscarriage. She had just begun a toast when he interrupted with, “You know what would really make this birthday better? If [she] finally admitted she’s pregnant.” She wasn’t. She wasn’t even trying to be. And he knew how painful the topic was. He later dismissed her reaction as humorless, calling it a harmless prank. But the internet saw it differently—naming it what it was: emotional cruelty, weaponized publicly. For those who’ve experienced loss, this wasn’t just bad taste. It was a reminder of how often our pain gets dismissed as overreaction. (Read more)
Must-Read Story of the Week
Male Factor Fertility: Understanding Sperm Issues
When we talk about infertility, the conversation almost always centers on women—our hormones, our cycles, our bodies. But nearly half of all infertility cases involve male factor issues, and yet, those stories are still whispered, minimized, or ignored. This week, we’re breaking that silence. We’re diving into what male infertility actually looks like, how it shows up in relationships, and why it’s time to stop assuming that the burden to conceive falls only on our shoulders. Whether you’re in the thick of trying again or just beginning to ask questions, this is information every hopeful parent deserves to know.
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With love,
The Miscarriage Movement Team